Self Differentiated Leadership & Bringing the Organization Change Process Together


Self-Differentiated Leader
To be a self-differentiated leader, one must consistently uphold their core values while managing their own anxiety known as self-differentiation. By staying grounded in their values, the leader remains aware to their surroundings while effectively regulating their anxiety. This balance enables the leader to engage in meaningful, crucial conversations with those around them. In order to foster these conversations, the leader must first build trust within the group. Trust cultivates an open environment where team members feel safe to share their thoughts and ideas, helping the group collectively navigate challenges and find solutions.
Crucial Conversations
Having crucial conversations is vital to ensuring that the group doesn't get stuck and is equipped with the ideas and strategies needed to overcome challenges when they arise. Leading with your heart means sharing what you're passionate about and being more open with your thoughts. Additionally, by observing the group and sensing the energy in the room, you can gauge whether people feel comfortable enough to speak up and share their ideas. It's essential to create an environment where people feel safe to express themselves. By facilitating crucial conversations, you not only build trust within the team but also create space for everyone’s thoughts, fostering deeper, more productive discussions. To support my innovation plan, I’ve developed a strategy for having these crucial conversations:
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Get Unstuck – Avoid getting trapped in a situation. By holding weekly check-ins, I can connect with teachers and address any challenges they may be facing.
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Start with the Heart – Focus on the right motives and understand what teachers truly want. Building trust with teachers will encourage them to open up and share their thoughts and feelings.
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Learn to Look – I’ll observe for signs of discomfort or struggle and offer support to teachers who may be experiencing challenges.
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Make it Safe – Creating a trusting environment allows teachers to feel comfortable sharing their thoughts. This will help me better understand their needs and how I can support their success.
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Master My Stories – By sharing my own experiences, I can grow both as a teacher and as a leader, showing teachers that growth and learning are continuous.
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STATE My Path – By clearly communicating the goals of my innovation plan, teachers will better understand the end vision and be motivated to contribute to its success.
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Explore Other Paths – I’ll actively seek feedback from other teachers to gather insights on how to improve the innovation plan and make it more effective.
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Move to Action – By integrating input from teachers, I will develop solutions and take the necessary steps to move the plan forward.


References
Alex Kaufaman. (2013, August 24). Friedman’s theory of differentiated leadership made simple [Video]. YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i9H-i9lHr28
Callibrain. (2015, August 20). Video review for crucial conversations by Kerry Patterson [Video]. YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EFaXx3pgaxM
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Vital Smart India. (2012, February 10). Crucial conversations explained in 2 minutes [Video]. YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ixEI4_2Xivw